Have you ever had a parent or family member tell you, “Life and death is in the power of the tongue?” When you heard it you probably thought, “What are you talking about?” or “ That’s just an old wives’ tale!” But, I’ll be the first to tell you it’s true. Some people don’t care about compliments or affirmations, but after reading “The Five Love Languages” I found out words of affirmation are definitely one of my love languages. If I could think back to why or how it started, I would have to give all credit to my number one bestie: my mom. Growing up she would always encourage and push me to do things I wasn’t comfortable doing. I didn’t realize it then, but she was only molding me to become the woman and mother I am today. 

I’ve said this before, and I’ll say it again when you become a mother you want to push your child to be better than you. That doesn’t mean you are a bad person; it just means you want to push them where it might have been hard for you. For me, with my baby girl Miss Dallas I can already see she will be better than me. Seriously, the little girl has no fear, me on the other hand… yep, I’m fearful! haha. But I would like to think, she has no fear because I speak life into her. I go through affirmations with her, and encourage her when she needs it and even when she doesn’t. What she doesn’t know is while I’m speaking life into her she says, “You can do it mommy!” or “Good Job!” It not only helps me get through whatever I’m doing, but it also lets me know I’m not doing bad as a mom. 

Several times, while I’ve been working out and wanting to give up she would say, “You can do it mommy!” Ya’ll, that would give me the extra push I needed. It was like that’s all I needed to hear to keep going. I also knew in that moment I couldn’t stop because if I did, she would think it would be okay to give up when she felt like she couldn’t go on anymore.

When Dallas started talking and forming sentences, it didn’t take me long to realize she was a repeater. She will tell you word for word everything you said and/or what something means. It’s crazy, and seriously will blow your mind. The benefit of this is knowing that while I’ve been speaking life into her, she’s able to take those little words and phrases and speak life into me. Those, my fellow Socialites, are true words of affirmation.